Marrige/ Commitment

 

Well unfortunately compared to last weeks nail biter this week will seem pretty dry to my most of my loyal followers (all four of you).  I'm quite tired and i have 2 very important tests for tomorrow, and Mr. Procrastinator decided to enjoy the nice weather and wait til the last minute to do everything.  So my witty banter and delightfully charming phrases will probably be lacking their normal pizzazz (which by the way is an awesome word which i would encourage you all to include in your everyday speech when possible). So with that out of the way let us get on with it. So I can't tell you the amount of times I have turned on my TV and heard what is perhaps one of the most unfair and partially true myths about men: That we can't commit. Well that's only half true. Most men can't commit UNLESS its the right person. Believe it or not when it comes to marrige and commitment men tend to be pickier than women. Which is interesting because biologically it should be the other way around.
      Now when i say commitment I don't mean as in a sexual partner. That's something that biologically men are more inclined to not commit too. And a lot of the time they don't. If your just having sex with a guy then don't expect the ring any time soon. However when it comes to dating that's a different story. I have always gone with the philosophy that when I date a girl for a prolonged period of time (more than a couple dates), there is a potential that girl could be my wife someday. Now I'm not gonna start saving for the diamond, nor will I go crazy stalker boyfriend; that my dear friends is what we call creepy. No that's not what I'm saying at all. However society gives us this perception that all a guy wants out of a relationship is sex. And once that stops then they will get bored and leave. Not true at all. Many guys, I would even go as far as to say most guys, want relationships to last. They want to feel loved and be loved back, even when they don't show it. Romantic love outside of sex is looked upon as fantasy in our society. I've talked about it before and I'll say it again. When I am dating a girl I'm basically seeing whether or not our relationship will work out enough that we could get married and spend our entire lives together. However this is a reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaally long process. It takes most men years before they know whether or not that person is the right one.  That is why i said the myth about commitment is half-true. It takes men slower to commit to a woman not because they want to have sex with everything on the planet as society would like us to believe, but because they want to make sure they have it right the first time and make sure that both they and their partner will be happy in the future. Actually in my opinion I actually think its a lot more endearing and respectful towards women.
       Now as far as marriage is concerned this myth is another one of those half-truths. The joke is that marriage is a prison. And this is true and not true. It's not true, at least for the reasons that society gives. Society tells us that men hate marriage because they can't fuck other women. That's just not the case. Most men hell 99.999999% of men love their wives to death and would never dream about cheating on them. No that's not why marriage is a prison. Men don't like marriage for another reason... not a better reason but a different one.  They hate the fact that they are now forced to care about someone other than themselves. This tends to be more difficult for men because in our culture men have one responsibility and that's to themselves.  The ideal woman in our society's view takes care of the men (i.e. mothers, girlfriends, grandmothers). Their "role" if you will is caretaker. The Men of our society are really only responsible for themselves. Biologically this trend is actually sound. Males tend to segregate themselves from pack's outside of mating season. However human's are more than just animals. We have a greater capacity than normal instinct and I find it repulsive that the media and society degrades us to that level. I think, I I believe most men will agree, that marriage is a blessing despite the responsibility and for some of us taking on that responsibility is an act of the greatest affection and love you can show towards a woman. So we're not all complete pigs believe it or not.  When a man gets married its after lots of thought and consideration. One that ring is on his finger he is the happiest man alive however you mark my words; he has found the woman of his dreams and In my mind nothing else in the world matter's more than that.